It’s just one of the many aspects of being a nurse.
And when it comes time for you to deal with someone who has passed on, the most important part of your job will to be to handle the death in the manner in which the deceased instructed.
Although this may not always be so cut and dry.
Often family members will try to intervene. And due to their own feelings towards the departed, or even their own grief, they may try to change or delete the prior directives of the deceased.
The major problems most often stem from the departed not having a clear set of instructions on what they would like as far as how to dispose of the body. Or where they wanted to be buried.
And each individual is entirely different from another.
Some want to be buried next to their spouse while others want to be buried on a hill top.
Then others have more grander ideas on how they want to be laid to rest.
They may want to be cremated and have their remains flown into outer space like the kind of burials that are becoming more prevalent called funeral flights.
This is often the time the deceased relations step in as they feel something like this is far too dramatic. Again, not taking into consideration the deceased wishes or point of view on the matter.
So one of the best things you can do if you happen to be an elderly caregiver that has the opportunity to know and understand their patient, it’s helpful to bring up the idea of having a clear understanding on how they would like to be treated after death written in their will.
This protects all of the parties involved. And makes what needs to happen much easier and faster due to knowing which steps need to be taken rather than placing further burden on the deceased’s family in having to make decisions they are not sure the departed would want r agree with.
Although as a nurse it isn’t necessary to look after the details of a funeral, or even follow up after, it is reassuring to know that their wishes, at least within accordance with the law will be met.
So no matter how your patient wants to pass or be remembered, it is their decision.
Just follow the instructions and you will be fine. After all, it’s wasn’t your choice.